Dad's parting in my home (his son) early Saturday morning
Dad died very peacefully Saturday morning - 17 Jan. 2009. He was living at my home in his last month. (notes by son Ted Elden)
He spoke to me. "Thank goodness you are up. Help me to the toilet." We got up about 4 am to go to the bathroom, but he just expired in my arms as I was helping him. Very peaceful.
He lived very well right to the end. Nice meal the evening before, Occasional conversations. He'd been out to visit his friends in homes & nursing homes a few times in weeks before.
comfortable living with Ted in last month. It was very convenient for me
to be with him, talk, eat, etc.
Many friends, even near contemporaries, were always glad to see & chat with him. When I got him on the phone with his friends, he would light up to be the center of curiosity & charm.
He had some
funny dreams recently about old architectural projects. I
was giving him dinner one evening at his home.
I tried to
explain there were no plates lying around in his living room and I did not think that
strangers came in to feed him.
He was annoyed that I did not believe him.
generally found peace, knowing where we disagreed & leaving that unspoken.
He did stretches with me, tried to eat fruit & healthy food like me.
for Dad, I'd never really cared for anyone,
My dog Grace died in recent years. I did not realize she died, I only thought she'd drifted into a coma or something. Grace died beside me in my bed.
Then Bozo, my
calico cat, broke her leg. She was old.
So when my
father grew quiet and stopped breathing
My pets had taught me the face of death. I had not expected Dad to die, but I recognized it when it came.
very peaceful here in Charleston.